Men will cheat given the opportunity.
If the President of USA can cheat what hope is there for the rest?
What does that mean? Well if a married man is away from his loving wife and is approached by
a women, regardless how good looking she is, he is 45% more likely to
cheat then a women is.
What are the signs?
The first is your gut feeling, in percentage terms you are 30% correct in most cases.
If
he has recently come back and brings gifts and is more loving towards
you, it could be a guilty feeling. These are called one-night stands
and in reality your partner will never see the other women again.
If
he comes back from his trip and is moody, sexual patterns have changed
for the worse, he prefers to spend time with the kids or alone rather
then with you. These are called affairs. This in most case is more
dangerous the one night stands for the reason that he is or has already
fallen for the other women.
What do you do?
You need to snip the bud straight away. First find out if there is a problem (email here)
Once you have the evidence (PICTURES or DVD) confront him with it and exercise the hard LOVE.
Let him know that what he is doing is wrong and how much it has hurt you/family.
Let him know you will never stand for this kind of behaviour. This ensures that he never cheats again.
Of course you don't want to lose him, but be very direct and clear on how much he has hurt you. This is very important.
Make sure you use a counselling service so that he can acknowledge what he has done is wrong.
So, why do men or women cheat?
The fact, they are board. They need something different, something to excite them again.
I am not talking about sexual needs here, but in general. Alarming fact, most women cheat in there 40's (good 75%), why?
This
is because, (in a nut shell) children have left home or are very
self-independent. Women have always cared for the children and now are
board. They cheat. (Sorry Ladies).
Men cheat because they get board.
Good 70% of the men cheat in the age group 45 years and above.
Mid life crises? or Board?
So how do we get rid of "board aspect" from our llivies?
You don't have to do something BIG, all it may require is Plan trips together, new places, meet new people.
At
any given time in your life, you should be planning for something. Even
if it is something small, life a fishing trip with the boys or Mothers
nite out, with school mums.
It
does sound a bit silly, but it is how humans work. If we are not
planning we are board. When we are board, we want excitement and that
takes us back to is he cheating?
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